For those of us who want to stand up for ourselves and for our dreams, we often hear that we are not our past. We can erase our past.
Easier said than done, right? I’ve found some tips to make it easier; maybe these will help you, too.
- Remember the good. Make a list of what you would keep from your past.
- Write down your strengths. Be really honest here. This is a time to shine. Claim your strengths and be proud that you have them. These don’t have to be the strengths we share in interviews, these strengths are what makes us really proud to be who we are and who we can be.
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How will this help to erase the past? Brain Science tells us that focusing on what we want to take forward in our lives is a powerful way to help the past fade away and our present become the gift of living from our strengths.
I would love to hear from you. What did you discover from this exercise? What will you take forward in this day and all of those to follow?
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Self Confidence-One Step at a Time
I am encouraged to know that self -confidence is created. It isn’t something we are born with; it is something we build one step at a time.
If you are like me, my self- confidence can quickly crumble. The good news is that I can build it back up faster now that I have tools to build with. One of my favorite tools to build the confidence I need to survive is setting an intention and completing it. It can be as simple as setting a goal to call a friend, make a contact for my business, or sitting still for five minutes. It doesn’t matter what it is, it matters that I complete it and recognize just how good it feels to complete a goal I set for myself.
This tool works. To use this tool to build self-confidence, remember the key word is “self”. The intention must come from us…the goal done by us, and the acceptance that we completed our goal, by us.
Today, my goal is to write and deliver a thank you note to an incredible teacher who works with students in our Culinary Department at the High School.
What goal can you choose to build a piece of your self -confidence? I’d love to hear what you choose and the success you felt.
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“I Don’t Have to Stay There”
When I voiced this group of words, “ I don’t have to stay there”, it was evidence of healing and progress. I am standing up. I am standing tall. I am standing strong.
Until very recently, I lived often in a world of the self- image created at some point in my life. That image was so different than the image others described me to have. I saw myself as a female who had made too many mistakes and life decisions to ever realize the dreams buried deep in my heart.
That self image of “I am my mistakes” comes with depression, little motivation, and stalled living. It never feels good. It never serves me well. It keeps me from living what I know to be true: I am not my mistakes. I am worthy, competent, sane and loveable. And, I am what I believe myself to be! I am in charge of my thoughts, my actions, and making my dreams come true-any time, anywhere, and with anyone.
And, when I start to realize I’m back in my old image, I can remind myself that, “I don’t have to stay there”…I can live in my new image.
How freeing! Are you living your dreams? Your authentic life? Does your inner and outer image match? If so, I’m looking for friends and clients, just like you!
Call me, write me. I’d love to have a conversation with you.
I used to teach my students to be “The Star in Their Own Film”. They were open and could talk about their Mis-takes. We learned together that talking about them in class meetings made it okay for all of us to say: “Oops-that was a Mis-take. Take Two! Just that little saying made it okay for us to take risks and learn a whole lot more about ourselves or the task at hand. Sometimes, I wonder if it helped me more than it helped my students. I do believe that we teach others what we need to learn ourselves.
What are you teaching others that you are learning from, too?